Don't get me wrong, I would spend days off in bed, watching my favorite tv shows, but i wouldn't do things that poured back into me, so I was constantly feeling drained. Self care is something I have preached about my whole life, but never really practiced. I have taken a step back from my people pleasing and have learned to say no, when I am to drained to offer assistance anymore. I have learned to hold to my boundaries, and that the word "No" is a complete sentence. I have learned to use my voice, and speak up for myself. Since then, I have slowly started being more authentic in who I am, and not hide parts of me just because of people's shitty opinions.Īt 25 i feel more like myself than I ever have.
I knew my parents would be supportive, but that didn't make it any easier for me to vulnerable and raw. I picked up the phone and called my mom, and uttered the words "I'm queer" through tears.
I came out to my parents when I was 25 years old. I was told growing up that being anything but straight was such a sin, and that i would spent my life in hell because of it. Coming out was not easy, growing up in the church made it scary, and hard. I came to the realization that I had been hiding a part of myself for my entire life. I am still searching as I believe we never truly know who we are even when we "grow up". I spent months discovering who I was, and what I wanted to be.
I did not know who I was outside of a relationship, nor did I know how to be on my own. When I separated from my husband I was terrified of what would follow. I am 25 years old and just now learning who I am.